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"E90M3" (e90m3) 04/10/2019 at 17:24 • Filed to: None

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I like cars: Jim Spanfeller is one ugly motherfucker > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:27

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lmao social skills. There should be a required class senior year titled “How to Function Like A Regular Person”, where they teach us how to do stuff like eye contact, posture, small talk, and how to follow social norms. I can generally handle it, but geez, some of my classmates...

farscythe - makin da cawfee! > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:28

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hey... thats me too...cept im not an engineer

and i mostly break things round the house

HondoyotaE38: A Japanese and German Collab...wait a minute > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:29

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Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:31

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I’d like to think I’m better than my peers but I’m probably a 4/10 compared to normal people for social skills.

BaconSandwich is tasty. > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:33

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Over the years I had several engineering student roommates. Can confirm.

VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:35

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Social skills aren’t particularly hard to develop. You just have to act like you give a shit about some stupid thing someone else is talking about. Ask them smart questions and let them do all the talking.

Firm handshake, decent eye contact, and body posture is the rest, but when in  doubt, just do what Seth Rogan does in all his movies - look vaguely relaxed, then vaguely surprised, then vaguely relaxed again

For Sweden > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:35

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Chariotoflove > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:36

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MattHurting > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:41

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How can you tell if an engineer is an extrovert?

He looks at your shoes when he talks to you.

SPAMBot - Horse Doctor > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:42

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I have a lot of friends who are engineers and it always seems like we do ok socially. Then we’ll hang out with a non-engineer friend and they will point out how big of nerds we are lol

Chariotoflove > farscythe - makin da cawfee! 04/10/2019 at 17:44

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Someone should have told you, when your wife says, “give me a break”, she means something else.

jimz > VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely 04/10/2019 at 17:46

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Social skills aren’t particularly hard to devel op.

They are when anxiety/discomfort is in the picture.

farscythe - makin da cawfee! > Chariotoflove 04/10/2019 at 17:47

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oh..... yeah... someone should have

but after all these years im guessing shes ok with it

Highlander-Datsuns are Forever > Chariotoflove 04/10/2019 at 17:50

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Chariotoflove > Highlander-Datsuns are Forever 04/10/2019 at 17:52

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Accurate.

Manwich - now Keto-Friendly > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:56

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wafflesnfalafel > For Sweden 04/10/2019 at 17:56

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that 2nd one is awesome, (snickering here in my cubie...)

VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely > jimz 04/10/2019 at 17:56

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I think I should point out that despite anxiety/discomfort being prevalent, it isn’t supposed to be a default state of being.

I sympathize with those facing anxiety as I did for many a year, but a state of constant anxiety is not how people are supposed to live . Therapy, counseling, or medication are your best bets for those.

Eric @ opposite-lock.com > farscythe - makin da cawfee! 04/10/2019 at 17:56

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*scratches farscythe off the list of possible mates*

farscythe - makin da cawfee! > Eric @ opposite-lock.com 04/10/2019 at 17:58

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good thing im married

or i’d be deeply concerned about my ever shortening list of possible mates

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > E90M3 04/10/2019 at 17:58

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Sooooo what about those of us who are married AND have no social skills?

VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely > jimz 04/10/2019 at 17:58

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On another note, I’d love to clarify (but can’t due to 15 min rule)  that it may be simple to say, but does take time and practice to establish. Not instant by any means. 

jimz > VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely 04/10/2019 at 18:01

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Gee, thanks, why did I never think of those.

VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely > jimz 04/10/2019 at 18:07

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You do realize I’m just trying to help, and not trying to talk down to anyone, right? That whole last paragraph where I said I understood and lived through it myself?

What use is your retort? I apologize if my advice sounds trite, it’s because it is, but it came from a genuine intent of attempting to assist. Goddamn, man. 

RPM esq. > VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely 04/10/2019 at 18:20

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You just have to act like you give a shit about some stupid thing someone else is talking about. Ask them smart questions and let them do all the talking.

This does not describe having social skills. This describes pretending to have social skills. Admittedly, that’s definitely better than nothing.

RPM esq. > I like cars: Jim Spanfeller is one ugly motherfucker 04/10/2019 at 18:23

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Add “how to bathe and how often to do it” to the curriculum and you could really make a difference in the quality of life at your average tech company or engineering firm .

VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely > RPM esq. 04/10/2019 at 18:28

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I was semi-jokingly attempting to frame it in a context of someone that might be a socially awkward engineer. I can see how it would look faulty as a strategy, but even fake it ‘til you make it is pretty rare amongst my known socially awkward peers.

I had a lovely conversation with my friend’s wife the other day that went on for a long time. All I did was ask her questions about her day job, but it was the least boring interaction she had there, since the rest of us were talking about NSXes. 

ZHP Sparky, the 5th > RPM esq. 04/10/2019 at 18:36

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Can you please also add “when to wear socks with sandals” , “ when to wear Birkenstocks ” , and “when to wear shorts to work” followed by just one word on the next page - NEVER to your curriculum?

RPM esq. > ZHP Sparky, the 5th 04/10/2019 at 18:40

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Done.

RPM esq. > VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely 04/10/2019 at 18:41

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I meant “better than nothing” sincerely!

VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely > RPM esq. 04/10/2019 at 18:48

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At the end of the day you are correct. It is better than nothing. I think people trying to be genial with one another is definitely better than nothing.

Also, I’m kind of an asshole garbage person just trying to help. 

I Will Always Be The Honey Badger > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo 04/10/2019 at 18:48

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Wait there’s more of us? 

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > RPM esq. 04/10/2019 at 21:25

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In his example, * I’m* the guy doing all the talking. Existential crisis... 

RPM esq. > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo 04/10/2019 at 23:59

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Better than being the person who is pretending to listen, probably....

AMGtech - now with more recalls! > VajazzleMcDildertits - read carefully, respond politely 04/11/2019 at 01:35

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I feel that it's worth pointing out there are various levels of anxiety. Some people are unfortunate enough to have debilitating anxiety even with proper medication, counseling, and an overall good life. There's not always an easy answer to mental illness. For some people even simply ordering a glass of water from a waiter seems as daunting and impossible as climbing Everest alone and without gear. I'm not trying to invalidate anyone's anxiety if it isn't that extreme, it's not easy for anyone, just trying to make it easier to see others' perspectives.